How to change someone for their own damn good, in 6 hard steps

Step 1: I notice that I have an impulse to change someone.

Step 2: I get curious about what values, saboteurs, and other parts of me are being triggered to give me this impulse.

Step 3: I thank this part of me for its service.

Step 4: I consider whether I would like to hold on to this part of me or change it into something else. If the latter, what would serve me better?

Step 5: I create this new part of me through habit changes, practice, etc.

Step 6: I celebrate!

Oh yeah and that other person might change too, maybe because they feel less pressure to defend themselves now. But it’s no longer relevant. Hooray!


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